What are your deepest DESIRES?

Published December 24, 2010 | By Rachelle Anslyn

Replace your resolutions this year with fulfilling your deepest DESIRES…

As we approach the end of a year and the beginning of a new year it is a natural time to really reflect in your life and get really clear… what is it that you deeply desire for yourself? The change you maybe haven’t admitted or acknowledged that you want or the change you have really wanted but can’t ever seem to make.

This is not a question to take lightly. Really look and get quiet to feel out and DEFINE what do you really desire? There is nothing wrong with desire to create positive change in your life, like Martin Luther King and “I have a dream”, know what you want!

Having desire also doesn’t mean you have to be unhappy or unsatisfied with where you are, in fact having dissatisfaction now creates negative feelings that are NOT in alignment with where you want to be (and you want to be creating that congruency now, so love where you are at now and through love manifest your dreams).

Now that you know what you want, EXAMINE – why do you want this? Your why is going to be your driving force and yet did your mind just go blank when I asked this? Isn’t it funny how sometimes we really want something and yet when we ask why it’s not entirely clear.

Maybe you want money or a rockin’ beach body… totally fine, but why? What do you want to do with the money specifically? And what will the hard body mean for you?

Again, dig deep. No judgment… what you want and why is personal, what ever you choose there is nothing wrong with it. The question “why” may create a shift in what you want and you can revisit the Define Desire step if that was the case for you.

Once you have gotten clear about what you really desire for yourself and why, SEE yourself having reached these goals – what do you look like, feel like, have in your life? Again, get a very clear picture of yourself having achieved and accomplished what you really want. Feel it and write it down.

The next step is very important because the truth is that we can want things and never ever get them. Why? Because as you may have heard before, “if you do what you’ve always done you get what you’ve always got” -Mark Twain (or Tony Robbins).

To create change we have to get into action with our eyes wide open, knowing what you want and why. Then knowing what your obstacles are and how to overcome them!

INQUIRE – what gets in the way of you achieving your goals?

not the right support
you lose motivation
influence of those around you
bad habits

IMPLEMENT – solutions to your obstacles (get way more specific than these solutions. They have to be clear, relevant and actionable to you).

hiring (or trading for) a coach, a personal trainer, cook
creating clear action steps to achieve that goal on a daily basis and an accountability system
joining groups to surround yourself around people with positive influence
letting go of relationships that don’t serve
creating new habits

REFINE - in this process you will take all that you have written and distill the most powerful pieces into a few paragraphs that you will EXPERIENCE, read and meditate on (or feel into) for a few minutes every morning and every evening in 2011 (download the worksheet below for more detail).

This will solidify and maintain your connection to your intentions and actions to create what you really want on an everyday basis. For added power, every morning when you are sitting with your intentions, write down 3 action steps for the day to achieve what you desire and in the evening check off your accomplishments.

SUCCEED – Here’s to a beautiful committed day of your DESIRES, everyday.

Here’s a recap and better yet download the worksheet below and fulfill your DESIRES this year!!

D.E.S.I.R.E.S.